Thursday, 22 January 2009

Haq and Yani...My Story



Oh...how do I begin this love story....

Sometime in 1984 after prime news, on RTM tv I watched this final debate held amongst all the sekolah berasrama penuh... I cannot miss this beacuse I also took part in the same competition, but our team from Sekolah Menengah Tuanku Syed Putra lost in the preliminary rounds....this second English debater from Sekolah Menegah Datuk Abd Razak...I couln't remember his name then, quite short with David Arumugam like hair but the bushy was a bit smaller...went..."Well, well, well...." and went on with his intro and rebuttal...it was Pertandingan Pidato Piala Perdana Menteri! Hmm, berlagaknya budak ni, I thought! Anyway, they won the competition!!

About a couple of years passed and it was my first day in my brand new adventure into college-hood in KPP/ITM, where I was supposed to complete my Alevels and do an English course on the side. It was the then shophouses where Giant Kelana Jaya is now...mind you then in late 1985 it was the beginning or recession in Malaysia, so there were many empty premises for the govenrment to help fill...hence our college. My class was called N8, it was not the last class, however, it was more of a "rojak" class, with mixture of students...ada this guy very alim but very clever from Kolej Islam Kelang, there was Yong from my previous school, there was this mek kelate Marhan, Shahriman the corky until now...but close friends with me and DH until now...and others...I waited and waited for any lecturer to arrive...but none came, as it was only our first day...but at around 11ish, this boy from the debate team opened the door of our class...he was to join our class!! Oh no.....

He was soft spoken, very very clever, but my thought of him being sombong...is somewhat true...he loves to boast whenever he finishes his work in class and I think he was aslo one of the lecturer's pet...podah!

Days passed, we went on doing our courses smoothly, and of courses, sambil-sambil belajar, there were romance...nolah not that standard (macam orang putih pulak)...love blooming, mushrooming amongts the boys and the girls...what do you expectlah kan at that age!!! And of course moi also felt the same...but moi sudah crushlah dengan itu budak yang moi kata dia sangat sombong, ha ha, padan muka jatuh atas batang hidung sendiri...

At the same time moi was close to this girl whose parents live in S'pore, but she lived in KL with her aunt and uncle....oklah to fast forward naik intercity 225...Shida confessed to me that she had a crush on that boy yang moi also have a crush on.....no way...how can she for him, inadequate to my standard...sometimes one have to think highly of oneself, like for this situation....I don't consider myself a go getter in the truest sense, but this moment, this opportunity I thought I'd go for it...One day, during break, I ajak the boy to this spot (now it where CIMB is!).....I told him I had a crush on him, better now, before the other girl grabs his attention (or did she? I don't carelah)He didn't utter a word, neither did he seemed terkejut, but he looked flattered though!

We finished our Alevels, of course after we were on talking terms like classmates, he did not show his feelings towards me...ada ke any? But that was irrelevant, I just had to tell him how I felt about him.

We flew to UK right after we finished our Alevels, the majority had to do their first year here. He went to Nottingham Uni, I went to Aberystwyth, we kept in close contact, he told everyone that we had a platonic relationship, I felt otherwise, tak pelah, what matters is how I felt towards him. Because I was disappointed I had to study in Aber instead of Queen Mary (thanks JPA for swopping), I am a constant figure in Notts, except for final year, where I stayed put in Aber an did all the studying that I had to do to get a decent degree...I was beginning to love Aber then! My Law in Nutshells were my contant companion during my travel from Aber to Notts....no...I am a capable lawyer now, ha ha!!

We came back, he started chambering in JB, a firm where he is still keeping partnership even after the owner passed away recently. I was lecturing in a private college in JB then....fast forward, skip skip...one day while I went visiting him in Batu Pahat at my the MIL's house...we were browsing wedding rings and engagement rings, and his mom spotted us...she just asked us when were getting engaged, all that... I looked at him because all this years after my confession, his feelings according to him towards me were just platonic....He said ok, we went out to get a gold band and we discussed the engagement day, etc etc....

Actually moi have to confess that had he not decided on that very day when his mom asked him, I was going to call it quits on him, not that I had any other guy, but I thought it was too long a wait already and my life had to go on.....of course during our days in uni, there were a few guys who were interested in me, but I had only eyees and feelings for him...

So, we tied the knot in 1993, packed two suitcases and lived on our own until today...and the platonic relationship bacame titanic, we are now expecting baby no. 6...Think, if we got married way back in uni, we would have a dozen no of kids:)

17 comments:

Madam Tai Tai said...

Yani,

Memang titanic pun...berderet dah kapal you all berlabuh. Now no. 6 coming close to the port. :-)

Wah..tabik spring lah to you. I wouldn't have dared tell a guy that I have feelings for him first! Glad you did walaupun Haq tu mcm tak respond aje mula-mula. Control macho, kot. :-)

torts said...

you have this thing on debaters,eh? i remember the shukri noordin's days, and kak roslina smtg-smtg... aiyaiyai!

Haq is very lucky !

If you're married when you're studying dulu... dont want to imagine larr brapa naka tangga you dok ada la ni. heheheh xxx

Ida Hariati Hashim said...

Dear Kak Yani,

I respect la u berani confess kat ur then love interest..caya la!

Yea..love comes from unexpected places. Life is wonderful, isn't it?

Naz said...

Salam Yani,
Intercity? Concorde kut...hehe!
Haq tu jual mahal bukannya apa....nak tengok saham dia dengan u dulu lah agaknya tu :D
Alhamdulillah dah nak masuk 6.
Semoga bahagia ke cucu, cicit dan seterusnya.

D said...

oh wow, I didn't realise dad of 4 + 1's wifey had a blog too!! Read his version of the 'story' and now it's yours - which is a little bit more detailed as it has a beginning. It's a beautiful story and a real example of 'jodoh'. May Allah bless you both always (+ 6)

CONGRATULATIONS for No.6!!! Lil Hajar is going to be a big sister, eh? Take care.

MrsNordin said...

haa... now I know the story. Before this, I just knew bits & pieces of it.

Berderet.... jangan tak berderet.... Rezeki lah!

Lyana Mauseth said...

kak yani,

seronok i baca kisah cinta u :D..mesti u senyum2 bila kenangkan semua ni kan...

oh bila u due? anak ke -6...aduh, u must be iron lady kan..bkn senang nak jaga ank2 ni...

Kitchen Guardian said...

gina,

dah jodoh kot...in other things am not that exrovert at all...tapi those engineers at network memang almost everyday kena leter dgn i..

ita,

yeah those shukri nordin days and roslina....but after haq semuanya dah tak dak dlm bayangan i..

ida,

thanks for visiting, i pun dok jenguk jenguk jugak your hsehold...interesting..i tabik ppl like you who can write well! my love story...wish i could exert myself now in other ways..mcm my confession tu...i ni penakut...

naz,

kita exchange cerita yg tertinggal concorde or intercity when you are home this summer...

d,

thanks for visiting..hmm hajar wont be 2 when this little one arrives in july...

bj,

hmm nak tunggu you and SW, entah bila korang nak bernak lagi...i proceed first yeehah!

lyana,

thanks for visiting, i dah lama pi rumah hang...busy and tak berapa sihat dua tiga hari ni...no am not iron lady, ni dok tersemput semput mabuk and tak larat, actually i tak senyum bila teghingat cerita tu...i thought how could i have done what i did...see you back in malaysia, soon...rumah tok i di kupang, baling, rumah i di tmn nakishah aloq staq!

Lyana Mauseth said...

kak yani,

yg pastinya 23 mac (kalau x silap) i kena pi langgar sbb kenduri kawin sepupu i :D...i tak suka la kenduri kendara ni..nnt semua org tgk i mcm i ni xdak kepala ...malu lah semua org tgk mcm tu...rasa cm pengantin pulak haha

tireless mom said...

Dear KG

Thought of leaving my tracks behind by congratulating you for the coming No 6. No wonder SW call you supermom!

Kitchen Guardian said...

lyana,

ada rezeki i pi cari you when i balik baling or aloq staq, next!

tireless mom,

ish ish, hanya sekelumit energy tuhan bagi, tak leh panggil supermom lagi...ni dok terpeleot...tak larat!

Breakaway said...

Os i dreamt i was pregnant last night.Maybe bcoz i was thinking of you yesterday and your wonderful life with your hubby and Haq.Yes we re not a go getter but we re blessed to know wat's worth to grab!Anyway ..now tgk u yg duk kena grab tiap mlm ....

Breakaway said...

Yani as always i typed wrongly i said your hubby and Hag ..i meant your babies and Haq..

Kitchen Guardian said...

breakaway,

kot hang and pat dok teghinin nak ada anak kecik lagi no!

floweRinthedesert said...

ur story reminds me of my SIL's. She first saw her hubby's pic in the papers when the SPM results came out and he was one of the top straight As students then. She laffed at his funny name (masa tu of cos tak kenal la), and ended up marrying the guy a few years later! Funny way how jodoh/love works kan...nak jadi jalan citer. :)

Superwomanwannabe said...

I think he would have NOT let you go if you called it quits. he just needed the push! And memang the confession tu was the RIGHT Strategy with yr husband ..tu yang terus melekat kat hati tu hehehehehehehe anyway you are one beautiful couple and may your jodoh last looooongggg looongg time..!!

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